Troubled Waters
Dr. Weil's Cheat Sheet |
The Cheat Sheet Tips comes from “Adultery The Forgivable Sin” by Bonnie Eaker Weil, Ph.D. |
| RISK FACTOR |
POINT VALUE |
YOUR WIFE'S SCORE |
MILESTONES
Feeling older and less attractive can
make her stray Decade birthdays, a
new baby, and an empty nest are
triggers. |
Recent decade birthday? -2
Recently gave birth? -2
Kids recently moved out? -2
No recent milestones? +2 |
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HUSBAND'S PRESENCE
Women who feel lonely because of
a husband who travels a lot or is a
workaholic may seek another man's
company But being too reliant can
be stifling. |
Husband travels/works late regularly? -2
Wife is reliant on husband? -1
Husband is around much of the time? +2 |
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TEMPTATION
Getting hit on by other men could
reassure her of her looks and tempt
her to stray |
Gets hit on constantly? -2
Gets looks, comments occasionally? -1
Doesn't attract attention? +1 |
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MALE FRIENDS
Women aren't as likely to cheat with
a stranger, it'll be a friend or
co-worker. |
Has a close male friend or co-worker? -2
Doesn't have close male friends
or co-workers? +2 |
|
TIME TOGETHER
Scheduling date nights restores
passion and encourages
communication. |
Hardly ever have time alone? -2
Have a few dates a month? +1
Have weekly dates? +2 |
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INTIMACY
Frequent expressions of affection
— cuddling, kissing, sex — keep a
couple connected. |
Not very affectionate? -2
A little affectionate? -1
Very affectionate? +2 |
|
FIGHTING STYLE
It's bad never to fight.
show passion Holding grudges puts
distance between you. |
Hold grudges or hardly ever fight? -2
Blowouts Fight occasionally? +1 |
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YEARS MARRIED
Passion fades out after 7 years
first year can be rocky too.
Divorcees are more likely to cheat. |
Married 7+ years or previously married? - 2
The Newlyweds? -1
Married 1-6 years? +1 |
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FAMILY HISTORY
Women with parents who cheated
are more likely to cheat. |
Unfaithful parents? - 2
Faithful parents +2 |
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| TOTALS |
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If Her score is -1 or less: Act fast. Ask her out and hope she doesn't already have a date.
If Her score is 0 to 5: Things seem on track now. Spend at least 10 minutes every daily focusing on her to keep it that way.
If Her score is 5 or more: Your wife sounds faithful. Keep her out of our office and she'll be safe. |